I don’t know much about raising a son. I know lots of people who have done or are doing an amazing job of it. My Mom did a pretty great job with my brother. My Auntie with my cousin. My sisters-in-law are raising terrific young men. I have many friends who are bringing up delightful little boys (you know who you are).
I think behind every good man there is, to some degree, a great mother.
So today, I want to talk about the woman who raised the most incredible, wonderful man I know. My Mother-in-law.
Here are 7 reasons I adore my Mother-in-law (because I know the following things about my husband came, at least in part, from her):
1. My husband knows how to do stuff around the house. When I lived by myself I thought I was pretty handy. No. He is handy.
2. He is honorable. I never worry that he will lie to me or do anything lacking integrity.
3. He is freaking smart.
4. He is no pushover. I can rest assured that he will (figuratively) beat down anyone who tries to mess with me or him or our children.
Actually, come to think of it, he’d literally beat someone down too if necessary. When we lived in Durham I was cleaning an old junky hoosier cabinet I had just purchased. I didn’t realize the top wasn’t connected to the bottom and it started to fall over. A vase feel off the top and shattered and I yelled his name for him to come help me so the top of the cabinet wouldn’t crash to the floor. With the glass shattering and my scream, he thought someone was breaking into the house. He pretty much jumped down our stairs, breaking his toe in the process, and was all set to throw down with a would-be intruder.
5. He knows the importance of family. We come first, no doubt.
6. He works hard. He can and will do anything he puts his mind to.
And last but certainly not least:
7. He never, ever pees on the toilet rim/seat.
I am a lucky, lucky girl.
There’s lots of stuff out there depicting mothers-in-law as meddling, judgmental, conniving, whatever. Movies and books always seem to portray the mother-in-law as a witch or an idiot or both.
But I think mothers-in-law often get a raw deal. I have a wonderful relationship with mine. Of course there are many reasons I love her, besides the way my husband turned out. She is extremely accepting and supportive of me. She is a terrific grandmother, always taking time to do special things with my girls (Lass sobs every time we leave the Farm… Every. Time.) She is generous and loving and thoughtful. And she loves my kids to the moon and back. What’s not to love?
So, thanks Baba. You are a treasure.