We’re two months into this four-kid gig. It’s pretty wonderful and a little crazy. I had gotten kind of used to sleeping through the night, walking freely (sans baby carrier and diaper bag), not changing diapers, not even wiping butts anymore! But this little one makes all the sleep deprivation and everything else so, so worth it.
His sisters dote on him, and that’s a big change. The last time I had a newborn, my oldest was three. It’s a bit easier this time around since the girls are independent in many ways and love to help with their brother.
And speaking of the girls, apparently having a baby boy after three girls brings on lots of comments from strangers. Most are well-meaning and seem genuinely thrilled to see our little family. They seem to think it’s great fun that we had a boy after three girls, as if they’re truly happy that we get the joy of having children of both genders.
However, there are always the other comments too. “You finally got a boy!” and “Your husband must be sooo happy to have a boy!” and one man even said, “I had three girls. I didn’t have another because I was afraid it would be another girl.” I usually just smile and say something like, “Yes, we’re so blessed/my husband is happy to have four beautiful children.” And to that man? “We love having girls!” I mean, really? People say this stuff right in front of my daughters! I’d love to shake them (the weird strangers, not my girls) and say, “Please do not assume that all this time we’ve been pining for a boy. We were not trying for a boy. We are beyond thrilled with our son. He is awesome, but our girls are too!”
Bah. End rant.
Anyway.
Life with four kids is really cool.
We’re getting back to normal a bit. New normal, anyway.
^^Sometimes I literally sit and hold him like this for over an hour, happily ignoring the overflowing laundry baskets around me and just basking in his snuggly baby-ness
We’re loving having a sweet baby around. This sweet baby.
I think it was my mother in law who predicted that I might be able to more easily enjoy him and soak up this time with him since the girls are older. She was right. This time around, since I know that this is very likely the last time I’ll get to hold and snuggle and care for my own newborn, I’m trying to savor every bit.
He’s growing a changing so fast, and I’m trying to burn into my memory every little milestone and special moment. The way he snuggles up so perfectly on my shoulder. The way he smells. His first laugh during a bath on St. Anne’s feast day. All. of. it.
We’re doing great here.
Three girls and a boy is perfect.
His smile!!!! Oh what a beautiful thing. And what a handsome boy. The girls look so pleased. Ignore that laundry, mama!
He is so beautiful!! And as a mom to 5 boys, yes, I get it. People’s comments (especially the ones right in front of my children) can be so hurtful. I was one of six girls and I remember well the comments my dad would get about being disappointed… BUT he and your family are absolutely perfect. Congratulations and soak in these beautiful crazy days <3
Thank you, Mary! I kind of hope that my girls don’t pay much attention to those comments. They don’t really seem to notice, but maybe they do. I just hope they’ll always know how WE feel about it!
He is so sweet! And so are your girls. I love seeing your photos of them all together in Instagram. I’m glad you’re just soaking in the new born phase. I’m not very good at that, but trying to get better.
I wasn’t very good at it the first three times, I don’t think. It’s been nice this time around! Thanks, Anna.
We have four girls and a 4 month old baby boy and yes the comments. They get so old and they can be so rude!
I know! It amazes me how rude complete strangers can be when it comes to things like this.
You are a wise mama to ignore the laundry and hold the baby. 🙂